Understanding Depression and Knowing When to Get Help

🌧️ What Does Depression Feel Like?

Depression shows up differently for everyone. Some people feel hopeless or sad. Others feel numb, disconnected, or constantly tired. Some people feel angry, irritable, or like they’re failing at life — even when they’re not.

Signs of depression might include:

• Feeling sad, empty, or hopeless most of the time

• Loss of interest in things you usually enjoy

• Sleeping too much or too little

• Feeling worthless or like a burden

• Having trouble focusing or making decisions

• Thoughts like “What’s the point?” or “People would be better off without me.”

You don’t have to have all of these to be struggling — and even if they come and go, they still matter.

⚠️ When to Be Concerned About Safety

Sometimes depression comes with thoughts about death or suicide. That can be incredibly scary, especially if you’ve never felt that way before — or if someone you care about says something that worries you.

Here are some signs that someone may be in danger and could use immediate support:

• Talking about wanting to die or not wanting to be here

• Withdrawing completely from friends or family

• Saying they feel like a burden or that life is meaningless

• Giving away belongings or saying goodbye

• Expressing calm after a period of deep pain (sometimes a sign they’ve made a decision)

If you're seeing or feeling any of this — pause. It matters. Help is available, and you don't have to manage this on your own.

🛑 What You Can Do (for Yourself or Someone Else)

You don’t need to have the perfect words. Just noticing and caring makes a difference.

If you're worried about yourself:

• Reach out — even a text like “I’m having a really hard time right now” is enough

• Call 988 or text HOME to 741741 to talk to someone trained to support you

• If you feel unsafe and can’t keep yourself from harm, go to your nearest emergency room

If you’re worried about someone else:

• Let them know you care: “I’ve noticed you don’t seem like yourself lately. Want to talk?”

• Ask directly but gently: “Are you thinking about hurting yourself?” (Asking won’t plant the idea — it actually opens the door to safety)

• Offer to sit with them, stay on the phone, or help them find support

• If they are in immediate danger, don’t leave them alone. Call 911 or take them to an ER if safe.

🌱 If Emergency Services Aren’t Right for You

We recognize that for many people — especially BIPOC, queer, trans, disabled, or neurodivergent folks — traditional emergency systems may not feel safe or affirming.

Here are identity-centered options that offer trauma-informed, peer-based support:

• Call BlackLine (for BIPOC folks): (800) 604-5841

• Trans Lifeline: 877-565-8860 (won’t call 911 unless you ask)

• Fireweed Collective Crisis Toolkit: fireweedcollective.org/crisis-toolkit

💬 A Note About Asking for Help

Needing help doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you're human. Whether your pain is quiet or loud, constant or fleeting — it still matters. The bravest thing you can do might just be staying curious about what healing could look like.

You're not alone in this. And you don’t have to figure it all out at once.